Raise your hand if you’ve disliked how the recorded version of your own voice sounds.
Now put your hand down; I can’t actually see you. (Gosh, I hope you weren’t in public.)
I’ve been thinking a lot about how I sound to others. As a teacher, I spoke a lot to students all day. I didn’t think much of it until I had to make an announcement to a lunchroom full of students with the use of a microphone and an amp. I sounded younger than the freshmen! That was maybe 7 years ago, but it still haunts me.
So now I’m talking to my own kids more than anyone, and I’m thinking about how I sound to them. The Regulator and I end up at odds occasionally. It’s like we’re speaking different languages. He tries to describe something; I will attempt to explain something. He gets upset; I get frustrated.
How must I sound to him? Sarcastic, loud, dismissive? If it was always like this, I’d know there’s a real problem… but it’s not always like this. But I’d like it to never be like this.
As a mommy blogger who would love to be considered a Mommy Blogger, I read other Mommy Blogs. Quite frankly, I’m offended. Griping, cursing, and, generally speaking, girls behaving badly. Women who dang near sound as though they regret having kids. Women who would shrivel up and die if they couldn’t complain or make disparaging remarks about other moms. Women who make the “mean girl” attitude cute and hip… except it’s not.
Is that what I sound like? Because if I do, I oughta hang it up right now. I will admit that my life is not what I thought it was going to be, but an online gripe session entry after entry doesn’t seem like any way to fix it.
Speaking of how I “sound” online, I cannot tell you how many times I have been in arguments with people whom I agree.
You read that right: I will voice an opinion, and someone else will pick apart my argument in order to prove THEY are right in the EXACT SAME WAY. I never took Latin or Sanskrit or Swahili– why is it so difficult for people to understand me?
This could end up a serious problem, but I’m not sure how to make the necessary adjustments. Here’s to an end to the communication breakdown.