Monthly Archives: May 2015

Gotta have a comment for everything…

Have you heard about this gal?

You should have by now. Her [stage] name is Tess Holliday, and she’s a size 22. She’s also got rockin’ hair, amazing tattoos, and confidence for days. (And not much in the way of a double chin, which I think makes all the difference when it comes to what is considered “pretty.”)

In this world of fat-shaming, slut-shaming, skinny-shaming, health-shaming, and bully-shaming, she’s getting both positive and negative commentary for living her life the way she wants to live it. Because that’s how life works– you can please some of the people some of the time, but never all of the people all of the time. And the best part is, Miss Holliday knows that– that’s why she can face the shaming and the bullying and still get on the cover of a major magazine. Because those opinions don’t pay her bills.

My favorite, however, is how a lot of people are “just thinking about her health” when they say that she shouldn’t be popular because she’s heavy. No– you’re not. Because you have no idea. I have friends who are the “right size” who are suffering chronic pain and other diseases while girls who are larger than average (which, in case you weren’t aware, is Size 14) are running half-marathons and keeping up with their lives, families, and health.

I am also okay with how I look (not thrilled, but okay). But that’s MY journey, not anyone else’s. I’m healthy: I have acceptable blood pressure, blood sugar, and cholesterol levels, and am not in pain due to weight. I walk, do yoga, and lift weights because it makes me feel better. I wear what I want to wear and cover up out of modesty instead of shame or regret.

So thank you, Tess Holliday. Thank you for being willing to be you, and not the little tag on your favorite outfit. Here’s to everyone getting that message and doing the same.

Checking in

Hey folks, long time no blog.

I’ve been thinking about re-committing to blogging, because it really helps to break up the monotony I have been  living in.

But first, a recap:
1. I went from random soccer mom to the Vice President of the soccer club. It’s actually a lot of work, because it means I’m also the Registrar, Webmaster, Facebook administrator, and Fundraising Coordinator.
2. I’ve become a travel agent, specializing in cruises and honeymoons. I think I was meant for a job like that, because I love helping people have a good time. Plus, I love going to seminars! Meeting new people and getting fascinating information on ships and resorts. So much fun!
3. I’m back tutoring. It’s nice to still use what I learned to help kids, and I feel like I’m making a difference in that one-on-one situation.
4. I’m considering shopping out my book. I’ve mentioned my writing here before, but it seems so much more real to say that. It’s kind of a big deal.

Despite all these things, I find the days blending together. The plight of the  stay-at-home mom: Everything gets done; nothing gets finished.

Here’s to making it all work.