Have you heard about this gal?
You should have by now. Her [stage] name is Tess Holliday, and she’s a size 22. She’s also got rockin’ hair, amazing tattoos, and confidence for days. (And not much in the way of a double chin, which I think makes all the difference when it comes to what is considered “pretty.”)
In this world of fat-shaming, slut-shaming, skinny-shaming, health-shaming, and bully-shaming, she’s getting both positive and negative commentary for living her life the way she wants to live it. Because that’s how life works– you can please some of the people some of the time, but never all of the people all of the time. And the best part is, Miss Holliday knows that– that’s why she can face the shaming and the bullying and still get on the cover of a major magazine. Because those opinions don’t pay her bills.
My favorite, however, is how a lot of people are “just thinking about her health” when they say that she shouldn’t be popular because she’s heavy. No– you’re not. Because you have no idea. I have friends who are the “right size” who are suffering chronic pain and other diseases while girls who are larger than average (which, in case you weren’t aware, is Size 14) are running half-marathons and keeping up with their lives, families, and health.
I am also okay with how I look (not thrilled, but okay). But that’s MY journey, not anyone else’s. I’m healthy: I have acceptable blood pressure, blood sugar, and cholesterol levels, and am not in pain due to weight. I walk, do yoga, and lift weights because it makes me feel better. I wear what I want to wear and cover up out of modesty instead of shame or regret.
So thank you, Tess Holliday. Thank you for being willing to be you, and not the little tag on your favorite outfit. Here’s to everyone getting that message and doing the same.